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Before entering society, you must watch The Godfather trilogy. From middle school when I followed my dad to now, about to graduate, I always pause when I see certain scenes. The recurring theme throughout the movies is how important it is to have connections.
Having connections does not mean you lack ability; on the contrary, it shows you have the qualification to participate in benefit exchanges. Trying to find someone to settle a problem but having no one to turn to indicates your social standing and qualifications are not enough to do this kind of business. Your face and skills are not valu

Why does staying at home cause mental distress?
Using the thought process of Han Bingzhe: You don't have to go to work or school, and you're not forced to do anything. Conversely, you can do anything according to your own ideas.
There are two issues here: First, no one is forcing you to do anything, so you can't shirk responsibility; whatever you do is necessarily your own choice. Second, the things you can truly accomplish are inevitably limited compared to the everything you're allowed to do.
Compared to the freedom you're permitted, you're doing too little, it's too dull, too—compared

Flaubert's description of Madame Bovary is the most accurate portrait of the modern middle class. She has no worries about food and clothing, with a husband, a house, a daughter, and social engagements—her life is considered proper, stable, and respectable by success standards. But from start to finish, she only has one feeling: being deceived by fate.
It's not that someone signed a conspiracy contract; it's that society, culture, education, and literature all promised her a certain way of life. Following the rules, she finds that what she can actually get is completely different from her expe

One year, I visited a poor household with my leader. The car took an hour and a half to get there. Upon entering the yard, I saw a bamboo gate, a weathered and crumbling mud brick wall, farm tools in the corner, and an empty pigsty. The family used to get by, but the husband and wife both died in a building collapse while working, leaving behind a grandmother with nearly blind eyes and two children, an 11-year-old brother and a 9-year-old sister.
Compensation money was taken by relatives, and household items were forcibly taken or "borrowed." They had minimum subsistence allowance but their

What should I do if I feel like I have no energy? Zhang Chaoyang talks about brain plasticity: what you focus on will be amplified. To achieve a new mental state, you first need new behaviors. Gradually, the brain will get used to these new behaviors and develop corresponding neural connections.
If you immerse yourself in past sadness every day, you will endlessly amplify that sadness and then sink into depression. If you feel like you have no energy, start with your actions—do things that seem energetic. How to do that when you have no energy? Start simple.
People don't first have a good

Why is it immediately recognized as the easiest to bully? Most people labeled as【Easy to Bully】are not identified at a glance, but rather tested to reveal it.
Victims often have social trauma-induced sensitivity and anxiety, which makes them easily express genuine words and actions under stress during assessments, allowing perpetrators to confirm they can continue to bully without backlash. Perpetrators may not necessarily understand psychology but learn testing paradigms through naive observation from their original environment.
Common tests and defenses:
1. Obedience Test: Command to fetch w

The 3M Rule for Stopping Rumination, from "Harvard University Open Course: Happiness" Lecture 7 "Adversity or Opportunity."
The first M is Magnify: exaggerate the facts that have already happened, such as overgeneralization or catastrophizing failure. If you didn't do well on a test today, think "I have no talent for studying, I will never do well on exams in the future." Clearly, it was just a mistake or lack of effort, but blaming it on a lack of talent only makes you more anxious and loses your motivation to move forward.
People with a "magnify" mindset tend to be perfectionists, expecting

Why can't contemporary young people break free from staying up late? Because the fear embedded in the system is too deep, and people's intrinsic motivation has been almost completely destroyed.
Starting from college, staying up late, trying medication, exercise, and self-discipline—all can only last a few days. Falling into an extreme steady state: lying down can't sleep, staying up late, feeling guilty when finally able to sleep, and planning to do things differently tomorrow, only to continue the vicious cycle the next day. Even with a fulfilling and accomplished day, it's still impossible

Why do some European countries support lazy people without social collapse?
I used to think that supporting lazy people was wrong because the idle should not be supported. Later, my perspective broadened, and I realized that the so-called lazy people are mainly the poor and the moneyless—poverty equals laziness. Rich second-generation individuals who are idle and do not produce are not called lazy; the poor who can't handle the 007 lifestyle, working one day and playing several days, are labeled lazy. The ruling class, which possesses vast wealth without engaging in production, calls slaves un

How do people become useless? Common signs: staying up past midnight immersed in novels or mobile games; spending holidays indoors filling leisure time with variety shows and relying on takeout; going through the day aimlessly, following routines without knowing what they've accomplished; parroting others without independent thinking, easily being led by trends.
Knowing you should get up but lying in bed all day playing on your phone; knowing you should sleep but opening a game; knowing you have homework but partying every night; knowing how to waste time but thinking it won't happen to you.

I used to think that big company bosses are meticulous and far-sighted, that government departments formulate policies with intelligence and expertise, and that the data in news broadcasts are scientifically collected and carefully analyzed. After engaging with different industries, I realized: bosses' flaws are more obvious than those of ordinary people, policies are often cobbled together, think tanks are just data aggregators, and the data might be from a casual question asked by a senior leader a few hours ago.
Essentially, society is made up of ordinary people; our nature reflects the o

Traveling in Thailand, I visited the square and watched a ladyboy show. Seeing the densely packed bodies in the display case, a thousand people indulging in pleasure in a feast of wine and meat. At midnight on the street corner, groups of white people lying on the ground flying through the air, alongside tiny Thai girls who are also lost in drunken dreams. Witnessing how women can please men under the influence of money.
This made me realize the greatness of the Chinese revolution. No matter how many regrets and filth there are, it at least liberated women who make up half of the population,

When I served as a secretary to my boss, he taught me a principle: things that are unsustainable should not be done.
Going against core values, breaking bottom lines, or engaging in activities that exhaust human resources, material resources, or damage reputation and relationships can only be done a few times. Long-term engagement is unrealistic and unfeasible.
For example, when a boss’s friend visits Beijing and asks for a full itinerary, requiring coordination with the Parks and Greenery Bureau to get approval. As a newcomer, I lacked the experience and connections to accomplish this; fo

The top quality assets over the next 20 years, in order:
1. Your own body
2. Your own mind
3. Close partners (spouse, parents, children, close friends)
4. Scarce resources (land, minerals, core area real estate, etc.)
5. Leading high-quality stocks (industry growth + leading companies + strong leadership)
6. Others
The first two are the foundation; without a body and mind, nothing else can be discussed. The third is the support system; humans are social animals. The fourth is hard currency to combat inflation. The fifth is an engine for appreciation, but requires discernment. The sixth is supp

Seven Ways to Become Less Restless:
1. Read history. Reading a large number of history books and documents will help you realize how brief your life is, how insignificant your achievements are, and how free from restlessness you can be.
2. Observe the universe. Look up at the starry sky, watch documentaries about the universe. In the vast cosmos, Earth is so tiny; among the countless people, you are so small. The universe measures time in millions of years, while life is only a hundred years. What’s the point of being restless?
3. Don’t compare. All jealousy stems from comparison. Human darkne

You have 100 steamed buns, 99 of which are packed in snake-skin bags, and you hold one in your hand, opening your mouth to take a bite. I say I haven't eaten a grain of rice in three days, can you spare half? If you give me the whole thing, I will be grateful because I don’t know your bag is full of steamed buns.
Another situation: 100 steamed buns all packed in transparent plastic bags. I want one, eat it, then smack my lips and ask for another. If you get annoyed and say I’m being greedy, I curse and walk away, and behind my back, people gossip that you have no compassion.
Both involve g

Why are the older generation more resilient, and why are young people more prone to depression? This is not a contest of "toughness" versus "fragility"; it's two completely different boxing matches with different rules.
The older generation fought street brawls against opponents who were hungry and poor, with clear goals: land a punch that draws blood, win to get food, lose and starve. Simple, brutal, direct.
Young people are engaged in an invisible "spiritual internal war," surrounded by mirrors, fighting their own shadows. The biggest enemy is the voices in their heads. There’s no knocko

Why do others immediately recognize that you're an honest person?
You pay little attention to your own affairs and always expend more energy than you can afford on others' matters.
Breaking it down into two points:
1. You don't dare to explore what your core interests are. Whether working or starting a business, you tend to keep things lukewarm inside and out, not valuing your own interests much—just getting by is enough. If things become truly difficult, you don't dare to speak out and mostly endure in silence. You even avoid looking at your own interests, as if doing so would strip you of yo