You must cultivate an unbreakable core within yourself. Never feel sorry for yourself, and avoid inexplicable feelings of grievance. Whether your family of origin is difficult, your job is not going smoothly, or the world is tough on your efforts, do not complain. Remember one very important point: do not get involved in anyone's schemes. Whatever anyone says is not important because you are the master of your own world. Don't listen to others' evaluations, and don't expect recognition from anyone, because others' attitudes are irrelevant to you. Never feel wronged at any time; don't expect help from the outside—whether it's from parents, friends, or benefactors—such external reliance will only lead to hurt. The truth is, no one is coming. I never spend time feeling betrayed; I always tell myself that I am not a victim, I am a survivor. The only way to grow is to experience setbacks and lessons early, then gain some enlightenment. Life has no wasted journey; the earlier you experience, the sooner you correct. A phrase I really like is "nothing can be broken without being rebuilt," some things must be destroyed to achieve rebirth.