A decent life is not achieved through others' charity, but through one's own efforts. The greatest sorrow in life is having these three tendencies: First, being poor but sentimental, lacking oneself yet treating emotions as everything; second, being impoverished but ambitious, coming from a humble background yet having an overly strong sense of pride and high self-esteem; third, being weak but overly kind, lacking strength but overflowing with compassion, always trying to care for others, only to realize in the end that no one is there to rely on.