Many people feel a confusion in relationships: they are growing, while their partner seems to be stuck in the same place, leading to constant conflicts. Indeed, some conflicts are not caused by problems in the relationship itself, but by living in the judgments and delusions of the mind, using "You should grow" to oppose the present reality. When a person does not live sincerely and with love, it is easy to project their anxiety, expectations, and comparisons onto the other person, mistaking false problems for real ones, thus creating unnecessary conflicts. But this does not mean that all conflicts are just delusions. Truly living in the present is not about escaping reality or conflicts, but about honestly seeing what is happening now. If the present calls for cooking, then go cook; if you want to express love, then embrace and accompany; and if you feel tired, hurt, or drained, you also need to honestly admit it, rather than suppress yourself with "practice" or "tolerance." Living in love does not mean tolerating everything. Love cares about the other person's feelings and also respects your own boundaries. When the other person repeatedly refuses to communicate, avoids responsibility, or responds to your genuine expressions with confrontation, these conflicts are not delusions but real imbalances in the relationship. At this point, continuing to demand yourself to "let go of judgments" might instead be a deviation from yourself. True growth is not about trying to change the other person, nor about forcing yourself to avoid pain, but about bringing your attention back to yourself and honestly asking: in this relationship, am I becoming more genuine, stable, and free? If I no longer expect the other person to grow, am I still willing to continue the relationship in its current state? When a person truly lives in sincerity, their heart becomes clearer and stronger. That clarity is not only reflected in tolerance and compassion but also in the courage to set boundaries, acknowledge discomfort, and even choose to leave. At that moment, you may realize: not all conflicts come from delusions, and not all relationships can bear one person's growth. True fulfillment is not about everyone getting along, but about neither deceiving oneself nor forcing anyone.