When a person's subjectivity is lacking, they will desperately compensate by emphasizing "instrumentality," especially wanting to showcase and over-display their usefulness, which they perceive as valuable to others. There is a concept related to objectification: when someone, in a certain context, cannot clearly perceive their intrinsic dignity as a living being, they unconsciously degrade themselves into an object, because the value of an object lies in its function, whereas a person's value lies in their very existence. Therefore, a person with strong subjectivity operates on the fundamental logic of "Who am I?" while someone lacking or deficient in subjectivity operates on the fundamental logic of "What should I do to be valuable?" When someone always seeks to demonstrate their instrumentality, it is actually an attempt to reduce relationships to transactions, because transactions are controllable: I put in effort, and you must recognize me; I should get a return. True love, however, is uncontrollable. This uncontrollable love is very dangerous for those lacking subjectivity, as it can evoke feelings of fear and insecurity. How to break this cycle? Try doing some useless things, and try to moderately expose your vulnerability, incompetence, and imperfection within relationships. When you are no longer so useful to others, then you truly exist as a person in this world.