Love should make you gentle and brave, not trap you in humility and entanglement. You should gain strength and joy from love, not expend all your energy to please others. What we truly need is not marriage, not sex, and not even companionship, but a positive intimate relationship—a connection where we can communicate, see each other, and understand each other's souls. You must make being recognized as your first criterion for choosing a partner, rather than someone who simply likes you. Someone who likes you does not truly like you; they like the part of themselves that is reflected in you. Many partners are unable to establish a deep intimate relationship over time and cannot cope with sudden conflicts and difficulties. The reason is that two relatively lacking individuals expect each other to heal themselves, and ultimately, both end up disappointed.

Many reasons for marriage breakdowns stem from the belief that getting married will lead to happiness, but it is only after living together that one realizes the partner cannot meet one's expectations. The root cause of any relationship's deterioration is when one or both parties give up on personal growth and place their hopes on the other, expecting the partner to heal them. For any relationship to evolve into a deeper connection, both parties must see each other making mutual efforts; unilateral giving will not last. A long-term stable relationship is not built on intense love or massive sacrifices, but rather on minimal aggression, little confrontation, and more acceptance and allowance of similar understandings and higher-dimensional cognition.

People who lack love only know how to take, while high-dimensional love comes from those who are inherently sufficient from within. The love they give is the energy of life, an unconditional and non-discriminatory contribution, illuminating soul to soul. True heart awakens true heart, and life achieves life. Ultimately, the energy of love you carry can reach a higher dimension; those who are truly in love will not become islands. It is often said that the wise do not fall into the river of love, but I do not know that the wise themselves are the river of love. Only by both jumping into the river of love, being generous with their love, learning to truly listen, and establishing communication from heart to heart, can they build a profound understanding, stable, and lasting interactive relationship.