# True Mature Anger is Controllable Expression

Psychological maturity is not the absence of anger, but the ability to distinguish between two things: Is my current anger because my boundaries are being violated right now, or because past wounds are being triggered? When I express anger, is it to attack the other person, or to correct the boundaries in our relationship?

There's nothing wrong with anger itself. The key lies in this question: Are you using anger to protect yourself, or are you replaying the past through anger? The way a person expresses anger is actually a psychological map of their growth environment. When you start to understand your own anger triggers, you truly begin to move forward from your past.