Is finding a partner for the sake of having someone to rely on? Yes! Although it is said that one should be independent and not rely on anyone, it is not contradictory. My son is ten years old this year, and when he was two, I took him hiking, which was really exhausting. Because I had to carry him the whole way, later on, I stopped bringing him on hikes. I just didn't have the energy to enjoy other beautiful scenery; it completely turned into a weight training exercise, and it was quite dangerous. However, in the past year, I've often taken him hiking again for a simple reason: he can climb on his own now. On the hiking trail, we walk together; when he gets tired, he leans on me to rest, and when I get tired, I lean on my wife to rest. Then we all sit down together to enjoy the beautiful scenery and chat, which is very easy and pleasant. So, saying someone who can't walk only relies on others to carry them is quite scary. What I mean by not waiting, relying on others, and relying on oneself is to learn to walk by yourself. A person who can walk, walking with others, is to bring different joy to the journey. Therefore, a person with an independent personality also needs a partner, and of course, can rely on others.

Do independent individuals have needs for partners? Of course, they do. Without needs, how can this relationship be maintained? Since they can satisfy themselves, why would they still have needs for a partner? When you usually cook at home, why do you still want to go to a restaurant? Different flavors, right? So why do you want to change flavors? To experience more variety, like Sichuan cuisine, hot pot, Japanese food, it makes life more enjoyable. Independent individuals can indeed self-satisfy, but being satisfied by a partner is also a change of flavor, which can make their lives even more colorful.

So will they suffer if their needs are not met? What if today there is a typhoon and you can't go out to eat, will you suffer? Will you be hungry? Of course not, I can eat at home. A person with an independent personality has a way out, so they can navigate relationships with ease, being able to express their needs and also easily retract them. However, a person without independence has no way out at all. It's like they can't cook, and if there's a typhoon outside and takeout is stopped, they can only go hungry. In intimate relationships, they are heavily dependent, unable to be relaxed or at ease.

So, partners can be a support, but the way they support is different. One way is a must-have support, without which one would fall. The other way is reliable or not relying, different life attitudes, making one's life richer. Moreover, you should know that only those with independent personalities can truly enjoy the beauty of love. Because one can adjust the posture of love at any time. For example, if I want to talk to my wife, but I find that she doesn't have that need at that moment, she is busy with her own things, perhaps reading or writing. Then I will retract that need and satisfy myself. I can take a book out to read, or do something I am interested in. In this process, there are no emotions, no bearing humiliation, I give her freedom, and I am free as well. She is happy and I am happy, and finally, when she finishes her tasks and I finish mine, we can happily play together. However, many couples quarrel daily because the other party cannot meet their wishes. For example, when one needs the other to accompany them and they are not there, when one needs care and it is not given, these disappointments and pains gradually build up in the heart.

Can a person with an independent personality accept their partner's indifference and ruthlessness? Of course not. If you go to a restaurant and find the food tastes exactly like what you make at home, but it's very expensive, would you still go there? Definitely not, you might as well cook at home. Independent individuals, when faced with unequal relationships, handle it quite differently—they seek mutual respect and equality. If their needs are not met in this relationship, they won’t compromise for the sake of it. Since the experience of two people is the same as that of one, why be together? They would decisively end the relationship and return to a single life, going home to eat and being self-sufficient. So, relying on someone is not inherently wrong; what's crucial is how you rely on them. A heavy reliance is destined to be a disaster. Therefore, we must first learn to rely on ourselves before we can learn how to better rely on others. #美7月PPI年率高于预期# #以太坊ETF突破300亿美元# #Gate Alpha巅峰交易赛# .